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Dear Frankie, At the moment most of my friends have a boyfriend and we all go out during the week together after work. I love my friends dearly and think they’re really great, but then why am I the only single one? I’m a pretty social person and I go out a lot, also my friends tell me I’m pretty and that any guy would be ‘lucky’ to go out with me. Therefore why do I feel it’s so difficult? I’m in my mid twenties and thinking of doing the big OE at the end of the year. Basically I’m at a crossroads as to what I should do? I’m worried as time ticks by that I will settle for someone I’m not really interested in. I know I deserve to be happy and I know what kind of guy would make me unhappy, but maybe I’m being too picky? It’s not like I’m waiting for ‘the one’ or a silly prince charming that’s not attainable, I’m just after someone to share in the fun of my twenties… Not So Suddenly Single Dear Not So Suddenly Single,
I hear your pain single sister. Having a Bridget Jones moment with your ‘couply’ friends can often be irritatingly irritating! But do not stress, there is nothing wrong with you.
 If you want a man to call your own the best advice is to do exactly the opposite. To totally release the desire you have, to let it go and stop trying so hard, then you can portray an openness that attracts nice guys. The magic of a plane ticket is that it forces you to release the ideas, as you’re leaving! I find people always find someone as soon as they book a flight, so maybe book your ticket ASAP?! I applaud you for recognizing that you do not want to settle. A tangible way you can secure this is by making a ‘love list’. A list of 10 specific things your perfect man would be, or that are really important to you. This way when you meet someone and are worried your being too picky or settling, you can refer to the list and remind yourself what characteristics are and aren’t important to you. Think of this single stage of your life as a time to truly get to know yourself – after all, there’s no way you can be in a healthy, successful, let alone happy relationship if you don’t! Remember, there’s no one else influencing all those important decisions in your life, so you get to be selfish and do exactly what you want, when you want. How many girlfriends do you know have given up amazing opportunities to be with their boyfriends at the time – and how many are still with those same boyfriends and don’t regret their decision?! Think back to when Lauren from The Hills declined the internship with Teen Vogue in Paris so she could spend the summer with Jason, only to break up a few months later… You have the freedom to do what’s totally best for you - embrace this time in your life!
Above all else, remember that we are not defined by who is keeping the other side of the bed warm and despite what Jerry Maguire might say we do not need anyone to ‘complete us’. Remember you’re in control and it’s up to you to make a conscious choice about who you choose to win your love – and why!
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