It almost sounds like a problem for the IT department, but no, we’re talking libido here. A common issue among couples is a discrepancy between his and her sex drives.
Maybe she wants it every day, and he only wants it once or twice a week. Maybe it’s him who’s begging for it, while she is beginning to sound like a hypochondriac, thinking up new reasons why she can’t tonight.
Whoever the issue resides with, there are ways to keep it in perspective, to prevent this element of your relationship from drowning out the good bits!
When she doesn’t want it An inexplicable drop in libido is a common experience among women, despite being in a loving relationship and feeling attracted to their partners. One cause is hormones. It could be the pill you take is dulling your lurrve senses, and it may help to see a doctor about this problem.
The Family Planning doctors are especially good, because while it may seem like an embarrassing thing to talk about, sexual drive is generally a healthy thing - and not having it means something could be wrong with the pill you’re taking.
The same goes if you’re not on the pill. It could be that your hormones are all out of whack. There are specialists to help deal with this so bring it up with your doctor.
Sometimes you just need to get out. While going for a walk or a run might be the last thing you feel like doing, it will get the blood pumping and bring endorphins rushing through you. In time, this will make you feel not only attractive but also healthier, which will in turn will make you more likely to want to have sex.
It’s also important to stand up for yourself. Not having sex is one way to make you really want sex, so make sure he knows that refraining is occassionally the best foreplay.
Not wanting to do it all the time doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t attracted to him, but if there are issues (like reoccuring visions you have when you are about to do it) then it could be a good idea to talk these through, possibly even with a counsellor.
When he doesn’t want it The main reason for not wanting to get down to it is emotions. This goes for both guys and girls, but males are more likely to hold it inside. When they do that silent treatment thing (while we girls rabbit on about our problems) they are basically tying their brains up in knots, trying to sort things out inside their heads. As we all know, boys have problems with multi-tasking (sorry, but it’s true!) so it could be that carnal urges come off second best. This is why you will find that you have more sex on holiday.
Drugs can definitely affect a guy’s sex drive. Marijuana especially can make the boy a bit vague, causing him to lose interest in anything that requires effort. It could be that you need to ask him to give up. A-class drugs have even more effect on libido – and on performance. It could be that he can’t have sex, because he has been taking too many drugs. If this is the case you need to get him some help.
It is easy to let these things get out of hand and affect the rest of your relationship. Put simply though, having differing sex drives will cause problems - and they won’t go away unless you confront them (or the issue causing them dissipates). Ask him if there is anything wrong - but only ask once.
Saying this, you should give him some time to get past it, without bugging him (which is more difficult than it sounds, I know). It could something as simple as exam time, or a sick relative, or stress at work. If you love each other enough, you will get past it!
o, we’re talking libido here. A common issue among couples is a discrepancy between his and her sex drives. 
An inexplicable drop in libido is a common experience among women, despite being in a loving relationship and feeling attracted to their partners. One cause is hormones. It could be the pill you take is dulling your lurrve senses, and it may help to see a doctor about this problem. 
Sometimes you just need to get out. While going for a walk or a run might be the last thing you feel like doing, it will get the blood pumping and bring endorphins rushing through you. In time, this will make you feel not only attractive but also healthier, which will in turn will make you more likely to want to have sex.
When he doesn’t want it
It is easy to let these things get out of hand and affect the rest