You always get told that love happens when you’re not looking for it. This can be difficult to accept. Are you just supposed to sit back and wait for someone to drop into your lap?
What about the people who flit from one relationship to the next without pause? We here at nzgirl can sympathise with not wanting to spend another Sunday with Soup-for-One and copy of He's Just Not That Into You, trying not to feel lonely because you’re afraid you’ll give out a desperate vibe.
That’s why we have a gift for you. The following are some stories of couples bound to give you warm fuzzies:
Alex and Amanda met in a busy Auckland bar on a Friday night. They were both with groups of friends. In fact both of their recent exes were there, and were in the ‘hoping to get back together’ stage but this was not to be. The moment the pair’s eyes met across the room, it was lust at first sight.
“She was a vision,” Alex recalled. “I couldn’t take my eyes off her and neither could half my mates!”
“I knew who I wanted to go home with when I saw him,” grinned Amanda. He kept looking at over at her but didn’t approach. Fired up by a few drinks and a rollicking game of pool Amanda finally had a gutsful of waiting and strode up to him drink in hand.
He was up by the bar getting a beer when he turned round and she kissed him. “I didn’t know if he was taken or not,” Amanda laughed. “I didn’t care at that point!”
When they finally broke apart, to smirks from both groups of friends, Amanda (brazen wench that she was) said, “I want to go home with you.” They spent the weekend in bed together and Alex dropped Amanda off to work on Monday. She thought that might be the end of it, a bit of fun for both of them. After all, whoever had heard of a one night stand that turned into a serious relationship?
Four years later, Alex and Amanda are still together and currently living overseas. Alex hogs more than half of the bed and Amanda takes up most of the closet space. They are madly in love and Alex’s favourite activity is still spending time with his girlfriend and vice versa.
Jake and Casey habe a different story to tell. They had been together for a year when Jake broke up with Casey for no apparent reason. “He said he wanted more freedom or whatever,” Casey shrugged. Being a practical girl Casey got on with her life. She concentrated on studying and plans for her future.
For a year she didn’t have any contact with Jake except through occasional letters. Then much to everyone’s surprise, Jake turned up on her doorstep.
“He said he’d made a mistake and that he’d thought about me every single day.” Casey wasn’t sure whether she should take him back. Despite appearances, it had been a tough year for her and she didn’t know if she would be emotionally strong enough to go through it again.
Despite some opposition from her family, they ended up back together and have been happily married for over 20 years.
These two stories were just the tip of the iceberg of urban legends of couples who met under unusual circumstances, situations you get told don’t usually work out.
So have a little faith, close your eyes and believe. Sometimes being single can make you really cynical but remember art imitates life.
Television, books and movies are fiction but they hold a grain of truth; the thing about love is that it does happen and when it is real, it doesn’t matter how, when or for how long, it turns your world into Oz - where magic happens.
You always get told that love happens when you’re not looking for it. This can be difficult to accept. Are you just supposed to sit back and wait for someone to drop into your lap?
Alex and Amanda met in a busy Auckland bar on a Friday night. They were both with groups of friends. In fact both of their recent exes were there, and were in the ‘hoping to get back together’ stage but this was not to be. The moment the pair’s eyes met across the room, it was lust at first sight. 
Four years later, Alex and Amanda are still together and currently living overseas. Alex hogs more than half of the bed and Amanda takes up most of the closet space. They are madly in love and Alex’s favourite activity is still spending time with his girlfriend and vice versa. 
Despite some opposition from her family, they ended up back together and have been happily married for over 20 years.