Without or seeming to be without plan or method; offhand,
Hasty and without attention to detail; not thorough,
Characterised by a feeling of irresponsibility
Noun: Relationship
A state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection)
A relation between people
So putting the two together and what you get is a bit of harmless fun, or is it?
Often the idea of a casual relationship is exciting and non committal. But the human race is an interesting breed and when it comes to relationships of any kind connectedness is a big thing in our books, and you have to be extremely careful that both parties feel the same way before getting in too deep!
Definitions have always been my buzz and I think for a successful casual relationship you need to clear away the grey areas and define what it is that you hope to achieve from a casual relationship. Is it purely physical or is it taking an already well established friendship to the next level with the view to something more?
If purely physical you need to keep your emotions in check, and think about how you would feel if that person suddenly wasn’t around anymore, as potentially that is how most casual relationships end, the other person meets someone else and your connectivity ceases to exist. If it is an already established friendship you need to leverage a higher thought process to consider all the pros and cons.
Pro: He is your friend, you are already quite close, none of the awkward stuff. Con: His performance isn’t up to scratch, or perhaps he is into some freaky stuff that you weren’t aware of. You now see each other in a different light and bang – there goes what was once a decent friendship.
So now you are geared up with your thoughts in check and your emotions at bay. You have made the decision to go ahead with a casual relationship with someone. Things to keep in mind at all times:
Stay safe! If this thing really is a casual agreement, chances are he has casual agreements with others as well so make sure you are always 100% protected.
Do not expect this man to be at your beck and call all the time, this is a casual agreement which means just that – CASUAL! He (like you) is free to see whomever he chooses at whatever time suits.
Communication is key – Keep up the talking! Talk about the weather, your work, others in your personal life and, the most important, how you are relating to each other. It is critical that you are open and honest about your emotional levels. This will ensure you both aren’t getting into something that was not the intention.
My say on a casual relationship? If you are strong enough, go for it! If you are the type of person who can let go easily and move on to bigger (no pun intended) and better things, then definitely do it. If you are the clingy type, or perhaps a tad insecure this is not the way forward for you – wait around for someone who is worth a larger investment!
Adjective: Casual
Pro: He is your friend, you are already quite close, none of the awkward stuff.