It’s the age-old tug of war; you want to be exclusive, but he’s digging in his heels to hold onto his single-status.
Mentioning “commitment” to a guy you’re dating can send him sprinting for the hills, but how do you rein him back in? Read on to find out why he won’t commit, and what you should do about it.
Why won’t he commit? Getting a guy to commit to a serious relationship is a battle many women know all too well, and there are many reasons he may be hesitating. He may have recently come out of a long-term relationship, may have been hurt by a previous girlfriend, or he may simply enjoy playing the field too much to tie himself down. No matter what his reason, don’t give up yet – sometimes all it takes is the right woman to come along to change his ways.
Get him to commit You may be able to get a commitment out of him if you play your cards right! To get him to consider moving your relationship to the next level, try letting him know what he’s missing by giving him more space than usual. If you play a little hard to get, he’ll realise that he wants you all to himself.
You could also try initiating a talk in regards to the future of your relationship. Let him know that you would like to become exclusive and discuss with him how this may become possible in the future. The key is to approach this topic carefully and to not make him feel pressured.
Overall, make sure that you have patience and give him some time to come around to the idea of commitment. Try putting yourself in his shoes, and give him as much time as you believe is reasonable.
When to give up Though you shouldn’t go down without a fight, you should also know when to wave your white flag, as some men just can’t be changed. Be wary if his time with you is strictly isolated to the bedroom - commitment is the last thing on his mind. Alarm bells should also be ringing if you feel, act and look like a couple, but he’s still dating other women - this guys getting his cake and eating it too.
If you’ve been putting your heart and soul into a relationship for months and he still won’t commit, do your heart a favour and cut your ties. You deserve to be loved and cherished, so go out and get yourself a man who is proud to call you his girlfriend!
him know what he’s missing by giving him more space than usual. If you play a little hard to get, he’ll realise that he wants you all to himself.