There’s only one ‘first’… Your first true love will probably teach you more about the world than anyone else, and drag you through more highs and lows than you could ever imagine...
But when the fairytale ends – for some people it can be the hardest thing they ever go through in their lives. Although it's always hard to let go, it's important to realise that you can and you will! We show you how...
Dealing with him
Firstly – your relationship is over. Give yourself a real chance at moving on by cutting off all contact with him. Delete his number, cut him from your Facebook and DON'T contact him. If he gets in touch with you, don’t reply. Things will only get messier and harder.
Remember why you broke up in the first place. It can be all too easy to focus on the good bits and forget the bad, but obviously things weren’t working between you two. Don’t dwell on ‘if onlys’ – move on!
Call out for support
This is when you will truly understand the value of friendship! You’re going to need the support of your friends and family to help you get through this. Nearly everyone has experienced a tough breakup and the people who care about you most will be more than willing to talk to you, listen and give advice. Tell them whatever is on your mind – don’t bottle stuff up.
Also don’t coop yourself up in your bedroom, get out and have fun with your girlfriends. It will help take your mind off things and will help you to heal faster.
Love yourself
Remember that it’s OK to cry, feel sorry for yourself and mope around – just not forever! Breaking up always hurts, especially with your first love, but it’s important to remember that you will get over it – even though it probably feels like you won’t. Use your newly single status as a chance to discover the person you want to be, now is your chance to be selfish and do whatever you want!
Little things to help you get through
Use music - both slow and soppy love songs, and snappy, kick ass ones to help get you through your mood swings.
You will find another love – you have the rest of your life!
Having your first heartbreak is a fact of life and an important life lesson. You’ll emerge a stronger person.
Resist the urge to go Facebook stalking. It will only hurt even more. You don’t need the pain of seeing him with his new girlfriend.
Keep a diary. Jot down all your feelings, it’s a great source of relief and helps you to put your thoughts into perspective.
Keep busy. Do all the things you couldn’t do before when you were with him – meet up with girlfriends, go to the gym, join a class, read, travel…
teach you more about the world than anyone else, and drag you through more highs and lows than you could ever imagine...
Dealing with him
Call out for support
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