You are what you attract…or so they say. But if you constantly attract losers, does that really mean you're a loser yourself? And what if you can't seem to find anyone decent to date – what does that mean then?
Sending out the right vibes to the universe (and hot, nice boys) is harder than you think. But good thing for you – we're here to help!
Dress for success You know how career advisors tell you to dress for the job you want, not the one you have? It's sort of the same idea. It's not just to attract boys, if you make more of an effort when you dress, it'll make you feel better to – because you're telling yourself that you're worth the effort. You don't have to vamp it up in sexy heels and an LBD all day. It just means picking clothes you like, that make you feel comfortable and putting on a slick of lippie or gloss, and a coat of mascara before heading out the door.
It's all about attitude If you go round with a gloomy expression telling everyone that you can't understand why you only get loser boyfriends, then that's what you'll end up with. Life is often a self-fulfilling prophecy, which means that if you want that nice boy and a stable yet exciting relationship, you'll need to act as if you deserve it. Stop beating yourself up, and think of past relationships as a learning curve. They're good for knowing what you don't want, and now you'll appreciate someone better so much more.
You are who you hang with OK we know you're not in high school anymore, so there's no such thing as an "in-crowd". But choosing your friends with care isn't just something your mother told you to make sure you don't fall in with the wrong crowd. If your group of friends constantly go out on wild bikini parties and pick up a different guy every weekend – that won't increase your chances of finding a good boyfriend. Don't hang out with people who bring you down or hold you back. That's only a recipe for heartache.
Talk the talk… The most important person, and the only one you can change, is yourself. Relationships are important, but so are you – even more so in fact. You will never find that special guy unless you put in the hard work on yourself first. That means get counselling, work on your hobbies, get a degree, work towards a better job, travel, or whatever it is that you feel you need to do to find yourself before you settle down. If you're sending out confused vibes to the universe, then that's the kind of man you'll get in return.
But once you're happy with your life, and feel that you're complete, that's when the right guy will come along and whisk you off your feet.
Dress for success
It's all about attitude
You are who you hang with
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