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 A woman over 30 in New Zealand has as much chance of finding a partner as an 85-year-old...
We’ve all read those ominous news reports that read more like dark threats than anything else. And at every family reunion, if you fly solo, you’re bound to encounter the inevitable question of “have you got a boyfriend yet, dear?”
But never fear, we think that at any age, there is someone out there for you – if you look hard enough. After all, as much as we’d like to, the perfect man isn’t just going to land on our laps. But you have to be willing to put in the hard yards, and cast your net far and wide. Never fear, we’ve done the trickiest bit for you and come up with a list of places where you’re most likely to encounter single men, or boys who have single friends.
 1: At a barThe night that you go is important. Don’t go down to your local pub – the people there are most likely attached. That’s because couples often don’t venture far from home, as they don’t have to put in effort to look for someone. Dress up and go to a flash bar. Weekend nights are usually good for singles – the later the better. Couples drop like flies after midnight, so that’s when you should strike the clubs. 2: At a rugby match Or any sports related event. Let’s face it, most Kiwi males favour some form of sport. They can’t help it, it’s just the way their brain functions. Try going to some more obscure games to increase your chances – so whereas an All Blacks game is always lots of fun, you should also aim to go to soccer, basketball and club rugby matches. 3: Take up a male related sport Think of things like fencing or shooting – any sport where the male-to-female ratio will be at their greatest. Forget about book clubs, dancing and flower arranging – these events would bore any straight male. .jpg) 4: At workA bit tricky – and let’s face it, a lot of work colleagues are taken anyway, but a good place to start is to find out which of those cute married males has a brother, cousin or friend that needs setting up. Your next task is then to befriend them, and let drop subtle hints about how you’re sick of being single and ready to settle down. 5: Try speed dating We know it’s got a bit of a bad reputation and suggests desperation to some. But what’s the harm? You don’t have to tell anyone you’re attending, and if you run into someone you know there…they’re obviously there for the same reason as you. Speed dating means that you meet lots of people in a short space of time, and you can weed out the worst of them without wasting anymore time. We think it’s a great idea!  6: On the internetInternet dating doesn’t hold the same stigma it did years ago. Everyone has an online profile nowadays on websites like findsomeone. The internet is a great place to meet guys, because you don’t run the risk of going on dates with total losers. You can actually get to know a bit about them before you decide whether or not to go out. Just make sure that if you meet someone, you take precautions such as letting friends and family know where you are and with whom, and when you’ll be home. 7: Doing a volunteer activity Like pets? Why not volunteer at the SPCA? Doing volunteer activities are a great way to meet like-minded people – and even if there were no single men or even males under 50 there, you might actually meet a lovely old auntie who has a nephew she’d love you to meet.  8: When you’re out with friendsThis is where you have to advertise, advertise, advertise. Amongst your circle of friends, let it be known that you are single, but ready for love and adventure. Your friends should know you well enough that they can pick out the type of gy you’re bound to like. So next time you go out, make sure that they bring along some single guy friends. No pressure though!
9: On your daily commute Next time you’re on the bus or train into work, or just talking that long walk to a café for lunch, keep your eyes peeled. Does that cute barista serving your morning coffee wear a wedding ring? If so, does he flirt with you? Slip him your name and number on a napkin. The worse that will happen is he doesn’t reply, and you have to switch coffee places, but the risk is worth it.  10: At a partyBut make sure it’s not a family gathering! Parties are a great place to meet people. You likely already know someone there, and if they’re the host, then they can probably give you the goss on that cute guy staring at you from a darkened corner. Go equipped with business cards that you can casually hand out to potentials. Sarah Lane
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