You know it's over when...

Everyone is different – duh! And the next stage of a relationship is learning to adapt to the others person’s personality/habits/traits. Obviously there has to be a certain amount of give and take when sharing your time, and accepting them for who they are – perhaps your man goes into a silent, depressed shell when the All Blacks lose, but you know that two days later he’ll be back to his old self.

 

But sometimes things can rear their ugly head time and time again – and you might feel like you are having the same argument over and over? Or not even arguing at all, that would involve communicating with each other. Despite still caring for your partner, maybe it is too much effort and you need to realise it’s over. We take a look at the seven deadly signs that a relationship is over...

 

You really had fun together, where you laughed, joked and shared secrets like best friends? These are some of the things that should feature regularly in your relationship, and if you can’t remember when you even went out on a ‘date’ together, what is holding you together?

 

Good friends are there through thick and thin, and have probably put up with their fair share of duds that you have dated. But if you don’t see them anymore and they never pop around like they used to, maybe ask them why? Is it because they really can’t stand your boyfriend and how he treats you? If so, then maybe you need to take a wee reality check and a view from the outside.

 

Ever feel like life is repeating itself? Are you constantly arguing about the same stuff on a regular basis and can’t seem to agree to make the right changes? Then maybe it’s time to have a serious chat with your man when you aren’t arguing, and if it still gets you nowhere you may have to have the ‘we need to talk’ talk.   

 

Feel like you are always waiting up for him to come home? Never see each other on the weekends? Time apart can work for some people, but really how can you have a proper relationship if you never actually see each other. You will turn into strangers if you never set aside quality time together, and perhaps you noticed you already are unfamiliar with each other and the lives you lead. If you can’t be bothered sorting out time for a DVD or dinner, maybe it’s over.

 

Despite your best efforts, everything you do is just met with a grump or no comment at all. Slaved in the kitchen only to be told he isn’t hungry? Got him the new CD from his favourite band and he tells you he was just going to borrow it from a mate? It’s not fair or fun to have someone not appreciate the little things you do for them. If you have told him you wouldn’t mind a thank you every so often for the things you do, and nothing happens, it may be time to take some action. Why should it be one-sided?

 

Come home after a hard day at work only to be met with resistance when you try to get some support and kind words? Your other half is supposed to be with you for the good times and bad, and if you can’t have a big, lovely hug when you aren’t feeling the best, then when can you get some love? Move on and find and that person/place!

 

If spending time with your man is just playing havoc with your emotions, then your only going to end up pretty down in the dumps and not your normal self. Did you used to be a social butterfly, flitting from BBQ to party? And are you now just holed up at home with little self-confidence or esteem left to share around? WHY? To be happy and whole, you need to look after number one and if you can’t do that while you are with him, maybe it’s over...